I'm sitting cross-legged on my therapist's couch 4 months after my husband's announcement that he wants a divorce when my therapist informs me that he thinks I should start dating again.
I had told myself and others that I was going to take time off to concentrate on myself for once. Between a husband and three boys, I didn't know who I was anymore. I just wanted to hang out with my girlfriends, drink martinis like a fish, and let the hair grow long on my legs if I wanted. I had even gone so far as to announce to my friends that I was going to take a full year off from any kind of relationship.
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About the Author
On September 16, 2010, my husband returned from a two week vacation with his family in South America. His flight arrived at 11 p.m. and I had gone to pick him up from the airport. We were home for ten minutes when I realized he was not wearing his wedding ring. When I inquired about the location of his ring, he announced that while he was in Colombia he had been telling his family members that he was going to be getting a divorce. I was so humiliated, angry, and scared words don’t convey the emotions that went through me in that moment.
I could sit around feeling sorry for myself, or I could get on with my life. I had already spent way too many evenings waiting for him to come home. Stressed out over our relationship, I had spent too much time eating and drinking carbs, mostly red wine, and gaining 80 pounds over the course of our marriage. I could lay around feeling sorry for myself, but I had already given enough of myself to this man.
Several sessions with a therapist later, I decided I could make the most of this new opportunity. My therapist suggested that I start dating again. Hence the name of this blog. So, I put my big girl panties on, and I’m getting back out there. I am an overweight, 43 year-old, soon-to-be divorced mother of three sons, and I’m taking no prisoners.
If you would like to read My Dating Prescription from the beginning, start here.
I hope you enjoy my comeback as much as I do.
Artistic License: If names are used at all, they have been changed to protect the infamous. Any person or persons remotely resembling someone you think you may know have been described to allow me the artistic license I need to make this entertaining. Names, professions, physical descriptions,and locations have been changed to protect the anonymity of those involved. While all art is autobiographical, this is NOT completely a work of non-fiction.