Comments on: Man #29, The Kept Man…The Aftermath

By: Wilma

Wilma — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 02:20:52 +0000

I agree. It seems like some people don’t think about first impressions, the state of their home or car, and standards very much. When STBex and I were still together and going to counseling, the counselor had suggested that we try to rise to the higher standard. STBex just felt like the therapist was taking my side and got defensive. After that experience, I believe that sloppy grooming or an unkept home is a sign of a man who is not going to pull his weight in the relationship. I could be totally wrong about that, but it’s based on my experience.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 02:15:19 +0000

I sometimes wish step dad would have been around earlier. He would have been a very good, strong male influence. You should tell him that I said he’s awesome.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 01:48:39 +0000

Believe it or not, Sam (not her real name) has done her share of dating, but she doesn’t have any kids and has never been married. I still don’t think 3 deal breakers in realistic.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 01:45:17 +0000

Wow, I guess maybe that’s a precursor to how they will feel about changing diapers. Way to be helpful!

By: Kathy D

Kathy D — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 22:02:10 +0000

I’m not going to “go off” on Sam; everyone has a right to his or her own opinion. I’m just sayin’ my opinion is more like yours. If *I* were the one being a stay-at-home parent and my husband was the high-powered breadwinner, I’d want to earn my damn keep. Goes both ways. Plus, if you allow your house to look like shit, what the hell else do you let slide? I’m the craziest cat lady ever, but my cats don’t wander around on the damn counter! At least not in my presence. Standards, people! If you raise your expectations, the good ones will try to meet them. Lower your expectations and you don’t end up with what you want. Period.

By: wow

wow — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 17:24:50 +0000

I agree with Jen….

AND your step dad, after listening to your last two blogs about Kept Man says: “You don’t have to settle! & REMEMBER I TOLD YOU BEFORE, YOU ARE THE PRIZE…. You’re doing the right thing by dating more than one guy!!!!”

BTW, the voice getting louder… is genetic…. your grama did that, your mom does it too. Well, I guess we too sang in choir!!!!

The sage leaves sound “vonderful” Enuf said… hugs..

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 16:14:37 +0000

Just a warning, I may go off on your friend Sam. Sam is completely full of shit and clearly has absolutely no clue what it is like to date as an adult. Do not listen to her. You are not being to picky. It’s ok to have 3 criteria when you are 18 and in college and life is simple. Life is much more complex as we get older and it becomes much more difficult to mesh your life with someone when life ha shaped is all with many different perspectives, expectations, and experiences. To limit your decision to three things is just stupid. I hope really really nice guy dumps her so that she has to go on just one date so she can see how frustrating, disappointing, and time wasting dating can be. Only then will she have a valid opinion to share with you.

By: The Byronic Man

The Byronic Man — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 15:46:55 +0000

When my wife got pregnant and we were reading various “FAQ’s”, one that came up a lot was women asking for help about how to get their husbands to clean the cat litter box. Because even though it could potentially transmit highly dangerous diseases, so many men refused to take 45 seconds and clean a litter box that it warranted an FAQ in multiple “So you’re expecting” sites. Unbelievable.