Comments on: Someone Chose You

By: Ok, I’ll Try OkCupid « My Dating Prescription

Ok, I’ll Try OkCupid « My Dating Prescription — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 02:56:03 +0000

[...] been following my adventures since the beginning, you may have wondered how I happened to get an email from my STBex on OkCupid if I wasn’t on OkCupid. Well, the truth is; I’m now on [...]

By: you're just a dumb ass

you're just a dumb ass — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 22:06:36 +0000

Thank you so much! Following you too!

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:23:45 +0000

Thank you. I’ll look forward to it, now that I’m following you.

By: you're just a dumb ass

you're just a dumb ass — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:20:21 +0000

Lol! Probably didn’t think through the name entirely! So glad you found it useful! You have actually inspired me to publish a post that I have been hesitating posting. for awhile! Thanks for inspiring me!

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:12:59 +0000

It’s funny. I usually address people by their username, but in your case, I can’t say, “Thanks, you’re just a dumb ass.” Thank you for your comment and encouragement. That testing of the combination of qualities that I think I want is something I think I’m getting better and better at all the time.

By: you're just a dumb ass

you're just a dumb ass — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:02:03 +0000

Oh Wilma I’m so sorry for this asshole walking into your life & your pain. I have been there so many times. So proud of you for taking care of yourself and your process of healing!

I heard this piece of advice that I want to share with you: A friend of mine said “Listen, we all date assholes till we meet the right one.” At the time I thought it was a harsh statement, but he’s right. Not that the people I date are assholes; because who we choose to date is a reflection of who we are and what we think we want. While dating, we are really testing out the combination of qualities, characteristics, and life desires we are looking for. We discover the things that we thought we wanted might not be what we need.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 20:36:25 +0000

Thanks, dittoditto. I do everything I can to avoid him, and yet he persists in being an ass and sneaking in. I sometimes secretly hope that STBex will have a really bad accident on his motorcycle, but then I check those thoughts and hope that his being dead to me will be enough.

By: dittoditto

dittoditto — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 20:08:57 +0000

I’m sorry too. STBex’s can be real jerks. I remember all the stupid things mine did to me, like subscribing to magazines in his fiance’s name and having them mailed (and billed) to me. Eventually I just came to the understanding that garbage stinks and I was very happy that the garbage truck (read divorce) was going to haul mine away. I never responded to any of his acts because I didn’t want to encourage him. Eventually he slithered away and then had the very good grace to drop dead.

Time and distance will help. Be kind to yourself in the meanwhile.

By: Wilma

Wilma — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 16:58:36 +0000

Thanks, Baby, Baby. You’re one of the few people I know who knows that lefse is comfort food.

By: Baby, Baby

Baby, Baby — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 16:35:07 +0000

Uffda…. I’m so sorry Wilma. I haven’t known you very long but I’ve known you to be a epically wonderful person. You didn’t deserve something that low and petty, you’re better than that. Maybe cook some lefse and hang in there