I'm sitting cross-legged on my therapist's couch 4 months after my husband's announcement that he wants a divorce when my therapist informs me that he thinks I should start dating again.
I had told myself and others that I was going to take time off to concentrate on myself for once. Between a husband and three boys, I didn't know who I was anymore. I just wanted to hang out with my girlfriends, drink martinis like a fish, and let the hair grow long on my legs if I wanted. I had even gone so far as to announce to my friends that I was going to take a full year off from any kind of relationship.
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Fabulously Fit Friday
Weight Loss Weigh-in Wednesdays are going through a bit of an overhaul. After some feedback from readers, it is apparent that they want me to do more dating and less reflecting on my weight loss efforts. I have decided I will not write about my efforts at the gym every single week. This is a DATING blog after all. Although getting back to my dating weight is important due to the inverse relationship between my weight and the number of men who will want to date me, it is merely an additional step, along with many others I am taking this year, in my journey to renew, rediscover, and reinvent myself.
That said, here are my thoughts regarding the status of my workouts.
I remain committed in spite of the fact that my weight loss seems excruciatingly slow. I’m still getting out of bed at the crack of dawn so I can get to Experience Fitness, get my workout in, shower and change at the gym, and rush off to work. The results, although slow, are becoming more and more apparent to me. I can walk longer and faster than I could a few months ago. I’m lifting heavier and heavier weights. My balance is improving.
Oh, and I’m not whining quite so much as I was in the beginning.
The truth is; I probably have not been the easiest client to train. When I started, my bad knees limited what I could do. I had a bicycle accident that wiped out my left knee and a snowboarding accident that damaged my right. My personal trainer, Zach has spent a lot of our time together having me do exercises that will help me stabilize me knees, and now I am finally getting strong enough to move on to heavier leg work. Hopefully, now that I’m doing more leg work it will help increase my metabolism and help with the weight loss.
Then there’s the work to strengthen my abs. Zach, knows that I hate all exercises done on the stability ball. Every time he rolls that thing out, I just know he’s trying to piss me off. He claims he’s trying to help me strengthen my core, but I feel like he’s just trying to torture me.
So this week, he’s been away from Experience Fitness, and I’ve had a substitute trainer. Before he left, Zach wrote out my workouts, and guess what? There were plenty of stability ball exercises. Besides the fact that any exercise done on a stability ball feels twice as hard as the same exercise done on a stable object, like a weight bench, one of the other reasons I hate the ball is because there is no graceful way to get on and off of one.
Ok, so the sit-up with medicine ball reach that I had to do this morning was not so bad. The reverse hyper-extensions, however, are a whole different matter. For the hypers, you have to lie on the ball on your stomach, and then raise and lower your legs. If you’re tall and overweight, like I am, getting down to place your stomach on the ball can be a bit of a challenge. Picture a belly flop with control.
Think about that for a second.
I always feel bad when my stomach hits the ball and it gives a little bounce. The other option, which I prefer when I am already on the floor, transitioning from the mat to the ball, is to kneel on my knees, place my upper body on the ball, and roll forward. This seems better in some way, but it still feels awkward.
Finally, there is the execution of the hyper-extension exercise itself. It was not so bad when Zach was having me do this with my legs together and straight. I felt sort of like a dolphin swimming. Now, however, to make things more difficult, he wants me to lift my legs up and out to the sides. Seriously? In public??? Are you fucking kidding me?
I just keep telling myself that someday, SOMEDAY, I’m going to have the nicest, most toned ass you have ever seen.
But my lewd behavior does not stop there. Oh no.
The next exercise I had to do today was something called hamstring 3′s. These were again done with the stability ball. With the hamstring 3′s, I have to lie on my back on a mat, place my feet on the ball and lift my pelvis off of the mat. Next, I have to roll the ball in to bend my knees and pulse my pelvis in the air 10 times. Then, straighten my legs, lift my pelvis, and pulse for a count of ten, and finally, the piece de resistance, with my feet still on the ball, lift my pelvis off of the mat and roll the ball in and out by bending and straightening my legs ten more times.
Nothing with this much pelvis thrusting should be this difficult!
Finally, remember a couple of weekends ago when I went to see “In the Next Room – The Vibrator Play” with my girlfriends? Well, today, a friend of mine informed me that this story is also a fancy pants British period drama. (I need to go see this one too even though I know how it ends!) As you may recall, from my previous post, back in Victorian times, vibrators were used to cure “female hysteria” which encompassed a wide variety of symptoms…
Now, I don’t know if I’m hysterical or not, but I do know a cure for what ails me, and, with all of the exercises I’ve been doing at the gym, when I finally start dating a man with whom I’m interested in having sex…
…I’ll be prepared.