I'm sitting cross-legged on my therapist's couch 4 months after my husband's announcement that he wants a divorce when my therapist informs me that he thinks I should start dating again.
I had told myself and others that I was going to take time off to concentrate on myself for once. Between a husband and three boys, I didn't know who I was anymore. I just wanted to hang out with my girlfriends, drink martinis like a fish, and let the hair grow long on my legs if I wanted. I had even gone so far as to announce to my friends that I was going to take a full year off from any kind of relationship.
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In Need of Cute Profile Photos
Back in February, when I finally decided to jump into the online dating pool, I wasn’t really prepared. As I was setting up my online profile, I realized that I really didn’t have any cute profile photos I could use. As a mom, I have typically ended up behind the camera, and I’m not one of those people who is constantly snapping photos of myself with my cell phone. As I searched my computer files, trying to figure out where to get cool profile photos, I realized I just didn’t have any. Before my marriage I had tons of photos that would have worked as a fun profile photo, but searching through my files, I realized that this again was an area of my life that had somehow dwindled away during my marriage.
I’m still somewhat baffled as to how this happened.
Actually, I know what part of the problem was. Most of the photos I had, which showed my face and worked well as a fun profile photos, also had my STB-ex in them. If I wanted to use them on match.com or Plentyoffish.com, I would need to cut him out of them. Now, I don’t know about you, but personally, I have always thought that profile photos featuring someone who was obviously cropped out seem a little tacky, and I didn’t want a photo like that in my online dating profile.
So the problem still remained. Where to get cool profile photos?
In the interim, I chose two photos of myself, and one of my dog. Neither of my photos showed my current hair color, which I had recently decided to dye auburn as part of my re-launch. The only profile photo with which I was really happy was the one of my dog.
Those photos would have to do for now. I didn’t want to have a profile without a photo. You don’t get any attention that way, and in order to fulfill the 6 month guarantee requirements at match.com, you have to have a profile photo visible.
So, I started asking around, trying to figure out where to get a cool profile photo. Some friends of mine took a few of those cell phone portraits, but usually these were taken while we were out at a club somewhere, and I usually ended up with a drink in front of my face. Not really what I was going for.
In the meantime, I also felt my LinkedIn profile photo needed to be updated, so rather than settle on a profile photo from a night out of partying, I decided I would search for a professional photographer who could take some cute profile photos that I could use on my blog, on my online dating profiles, and on my LinkedIn profile.
At long last, a friend of mine sent me the information for a friend of hers who is a photographer. She told me that she had taken some fun profile photos of her, and that men had complimented her for looking in real life just as she did in her online profile. (That’s always a plus.) So, I am so excited, because next Monday, I will be meeting Shari, of Luce Bella Photography and doing a photoshoot to fulfill my online profile photo needs! Yey!! I can’t wait. I’m so tired of the photos I have, and Shari is fun and creative, and I love the ideas she has so far.
I have a couple of outfits picked out, but I haven’t chosen a third and it will be largely based on which shoes I wear. I need help. Please vote on one pair of shoes from the shoes below. (By the way, these photos are NOT from Luce Bella Photography. They were taken by yours truly.)
Thanks for your help!